Thursday, January 19, 2023

2023 Book Page



1.  Where the Crawdads Sing         Delia Owens 

2.  Rewind                                Catherine Ryan Howard

 

Saturday, January 14, 2023

Elvis' Daughter

Lisa Marie & Daddy about 1971


 I did a post on September 4, 2022  on the movie about Elvis & talked a lot about him then.  But things have come up again because this week his only child, Lisa Marie died at age 54 of a heart attack, which killed Elvis at 42 & his mom at 46.  A sad situation.

Lisa seemed to live a complicated life.  She not only lived in the shadow of her dad, arguably the most famous singer of all time.  She was 4 when her parents divorced, 9 when when Elvis died. I can't even imagine. And she quit school during her junior year of high school.  She had a drug problem for a few years.  She had a low level music career of her own. She was married 4x, including Michael Jackson & Nicholas Cage, both with issues of their own. She joined the Hollywood cult called Scientology.  She had 4 children, 2 of which are teenage girls.  She lost one son to suicide a couple of years ago.  I think for all of her very priviledged life & boatloads of money by looking at her, it never appeared she was a happy woman. It seems to me that maybe she had so much heartache that maybe it couldn't go on.  

Friend & I were talking about if despair & depression was hereditry.  Because Elvis' twin brother had died at birth & then he was drafted, his mom was worried about losing her son & became an alcoholic. And Elvis' issues were well known...depression & drugs led to his early death.  And again, I never saw Lisa Marie as a happy person (though certainly no expert here) & can only imagine there were some depression issues. And her son apparently, sadly, had issues too.  Just something to ponder.





I Carried Around A Book Today


 

I've been a reader most of my life.  Granted, I didn't learn til first grade but after that a book has been a constant.  Growing up in my small hometown, there was always a library & we got to go there but my biggest source of books was the little rounder at the grocery store.  There was no organization. I don't think the store placed an order with titles...probably just for 2 boxes of books or something.  They weren't best sellers...just some original pulp fiction & I loved them.  I didn't have money but mom bought me probably 2 a month.  And then of course was the school library where I went through periods of new stuff & classics & the racy stuff in the restricted section.  Read them all.  I had high hopes for the Tech library but it was just mostly research stuff.  What a disappointment.  So I bought books from Walden Books & some other long gone bookstore at the mall.  

Now I don't buy books very often.  Mostly I go to the library to get a book I can hold in my hand or I use my Ipad to Ebook.  Books are expensive!!  I did buy one a few months ago because I was in Barnes & Noble getting a birthday present & it was on display at the counter.  And I loved it...I liked the feel of it in my hands & watching my progress with my bookmark & even the smell of it.  But I went back to the library.

My co-worker Katie gave me a book called 'Where The Crawdads Sing' for Christmas & I've loved reading a few bits at a time & toting it around to read where I can.  I had it in my purse today as I waited for my friend Deb to get to lunch. It's become my teddy bear.  Of course I can do same with my Ipad but right now, this book is what I need. 

I've actually read about 1/3 of the book & it's pretty good & I may review it later.  It will at least make my 2023 book list when I finish.  For now, I'll just carry it around.  And maybe go to the library tomorrow afternoon & sit in a comfortable chair & read it.  It's all part of a book addiction.

Added Jan 19,2023:

I finished the book today & I take back my "pretty good" from before.   It really wasn't.  

'Where the Crawdads Sing' is the story of Kya, a girl in the North Carolina swamps whose parents abandoned her as a child & basically she raised herself.  She's uneducated & amazingly ends up writing books about the marsh & the flowers & animals.  She's unlikable & selfish & untrusting.  She has 2 men falling in love with her for some reason.  And they can't take her out in public.  One of them has a great observation  after he abandoned her too:  I can have Kya or I can have everythig else.  (College,family,life).  

The 2nd man she falls in love with is a sweet talking former high school quarterback who makes her all kinds of promises he doesn't keep.  And he ends up dead.  And Kya is tried & acquitted for his murder & we find out on last page, she did it.

The book has too much background, James Michner travelogue crap.  Too many descriptions of fish & bugs & mushrooms.  Could have knocked 150 pages off book.  And by 100 pages til the end I stopped reading & went to ending because I'd had enough.

This was a big old book club book & I baffled as to why.   One review on Amazon said something like he hoped the author had made enough money on this book so she'never feel like she had to write anything again.  It was painful.




Sunday, January 8, 2023

A Movie Today



I don't like Hollywood very much right now.  Their morals are in the toilet.  They produce crap after crap & want our money.  They have no imagination.  How many Marvel movies (never seen,never will) can they make?

Prior to 2017, the content wasn't a lot better, but I did go to the movies about once a week.  But then Hollywood people felt the need to shove their political views down our throats & the Donald Trump hate was rampant.  I don't like Trump but I hate being told how to think even worse.  And they are so smug about it, like they are flying some big morality flag.  I decided but they didn't need my money.

 There is a not great movie called 'The Magestic' which started out good with Jim Carrey (major asshole & crazy as a bedbug) & Martin Landau 😍 who I adore.  It starts with Jim Carrey coming into a small town & he looks just like Martin Landau's son, who was killed in the war.  Dad was never the same after he lost his son & imposter gave him life again.  Dad owned an old time glamour movie theater & he & imposter decide to restore it.  He sas a great line about people coming to theater again, "Why would people stay home & watch a box when they could come here?".   The rest of the movie sucks after that.  But I still love that line.  I used to feel that way but after politics & covid & theaters being closed it's more of a hassle than it's worth.  Plus, I have a bunch of streaming channels & can basically see anything I want, except the really new stuff. But, for some reason, I decided to go out of my house & to the theater.

So, it has changed.  They have an ATM thing to dispense tickets but I had cash so I tried the box office but had to get ticket at concession stand.  I got a reserved seat.  So I ordered water (no soft drink 2023,that's me) & a small popcorn.  He handed me the water & an empty bag.  There is a big old machine that spits popcorn in the bag at the push of a button.  A little girl explained it to me.  Then in the theater, there were only 4 rows & there were only 2 of us.  I did not sit in my reserved seat.  But the seats are lounge chairs, feet up & all & a tray table, like I'm on an airplane.   The experience was nice.

The movie was good   It's called 'The Whale', about a reclusive, obese online teacher who knows he's dying & wants to reconnect with his nasty, big mouthed teenage daughter, for some unknown reason.  I could see someone just pushing her down the stairs & leaving her for dead. But he felt guilty & wanted to get to know her before he died.

Charlie also had a sweet caregiver who was his best friend & we met a missionary who was pointless & got a glimpse of a pizza delivery man who was there to gape at Charlie & his weight, a zoom class he was teaching (class never saw Charlie) who got a final glimpse so they could look shocked & laugh.  Also, we got a glimpse of Charlie's ex-wife who was a drunk & still bitter that Charlie left her for another man & the mother of the she-devil child. All contributed to the story but Charlie was the main story

Charlie's partner Alan had committed suicide after dealing with the missionary's church. And Alan was the caregiver's sister.  He life had deterioriated after Alan's death.  He didn't leave his home.  He ate to cover his pain.  Brendan Fraser is an actor who had been blackballed from Hollywood after reporting a sexual assault & he did a phenomenal job.  You could feel every pain Charlie did. And I cried my eyes out more than once. The ending was indescribable. By that, we don't really know what happened because writers in Hollywood aren't talented enough to write an ending.  I do recommend the movie for Brendan Fraser's performance.  The rest?  Meh.

And I'm not an anti gay person.  I don't care who anyone sleeps with.  But in the world these days, there are no straight people left in the world. So of course Charlie is gay & left his marriage for another man.  It's getting old. 


Sunday, January 1, 2023

Food


 

This isn't going to be a typical post from me about food.  As we all know, I have a love/hate relationship but that's not what today is about.

My mom was a great cook.  She learned from her mom who sadly died when mom was 15.  Then she cooked for dad & brothers & then married my dad at 17 & cooked forever.  She wasn't much of a recipe person.  I have a cookbook she had that was kinda beat up & had a couple of recipes she cut from the newspaper but mostly she cooked by instinct instead of a cookbook.

I don't have those cooking instincts.  When I started to learn to cook mom would tell me what to do & I tried writing them down but mostly I depend on cookbooks. Even with mom instructions & cookbooks, I'm not a great cook.  

I have horrible eating habits & my meals are basically unhealthy.  But I would rather have that junk at home than eat out.  And I've reached the point in my life where nothing really tastes good.  Except Schlotskys, which is nowhere near where I live & I only eat once a year.  If I do eat out, I eat at Taco Villa which is around the corner & the same consistant food they've had for 40+ years.  They are my comfort food. 

There is a "save" site called Pinterest where you can find a website & save it to a private board to find later,  Mostly what I have on my Pinterest board are recipes.  I try them usually only once before I abandon them.  But I keep trying.

Today I made a single serving mac & cheese.  Pinterest is not just recipes but it takes you to the original site where it came from. That usually means a food blogger who doesn't just give the recipe but the entire history of macaroni & cheese & every grandmother who ever made it. Basically a recipe I can read in 30 seconds takes longer 3 minutes, mostly trying to find the recipe.

It was pretty mediocre. I don't need to cook it again.


Thursday, December 29, 2022

Neighborhood Chaos

 On Monday, about 6pm I noticed water on the driveway next door but I didn't pay much attention.  Then when I headed to bed about 1045, I heard water running & I wondered it was raining...it wasn't.  I got my little flashlight & went over & found water running down the side of the house.  The residents have been evicted & had moved stuff last week but I hadn't seen them since, so no one waas there.  I called 311, thinking I'd be connected to the water department but instead they sent the fire department to turn the water off.  Big old truck engine, luckily no sirens or lights (except for the lighted Christmas wreath on the front) with 4 firemen.  They tromped through all the water in the back yard, to the alley.  Later, the one rookie, covered in mud & the 3 clean firemen left.  

The house has a realtor's sign & no one answered Monday at 6 or 1045...I called the next day & still no answer.  So I looked at the appraisal district to find owner & at Facebook to see if I could contact.  The wife said we had a mutual friend, my realtor Amy.  She didn't answer but her partner found the realtor & contacted him.  

Next thing I saw was a locksmith changing locks.  Then the realtor who said there was no damage inside ...just busted pipes under house.  It wasn't an hour & there was a clean up company hauling stuff off.  Then a little later the mad tenants showed.  Not sure what went on...not sure what was legal...not my business for sure.  But in that vein, I'm appalled that the tenant's kids had to see people hauling off their stuff & having to move because their parents didn't pay rent.  And sad for the tenants that they had to see people taking their stuff too.  But they should have taken care of business.   Not sure if dad still lived there...he works in oil field & I have not seen him in months.  Mom doesn't work, they have 4 kids who occasionally go to school in a whole other town, mom is gone driving all day but not working. I have a hard time understanding choices people make all day.

Realtor said he took video & saw several mice.  I hope they don't decide to move into my house.  

Gonna be interesting to see what happens.


Sunday, December 25, 2022

New Year's Resolutions



It's only Christmas night so maybe it's a little early but here we are.  I think the last time I wrote down resolutions was 2020 & we all know what happened in that disaster year.  

I watch a lot of videos on Facebook & there are a lot of people screaming at each other about maskes & vaxes.  Thank God that's over.  For the record someone is going to have to sit on my every day of my life to make me wear a mask or get another vax.

So here goes:

1. Read on book everyday.

2. Write every day.  This one will be tough.

3. Get savings back up to 10k+

4. Eliminate sugar from my life. It won't be 100%...I still need in tea & on cereal but no overt sugar.  This includes getting rid of sugary cereals.

5. No soft drinks

6. Twitter once a day.  I've become too dependent on it. I already have eliminate Facebook, except for the videos.  I don't read posts. 

7. Ignore Hollywood stories.  It's a little stange but we all need to eliminate the garbage in our lives. Need to include "royals" in that too.

8. Do the 15 hours a week.  Don't get involved.

9. Don't think people are going to change.  Don't count on anyone but me.  Don't trust what others say.  Too many have shown exactly who they are & what my friendship means to them.  I need to take care of me only. 

10.  ...to be continued


Friday, December 23, 2022

But only in my dreams...



2 more days and the holidays are over. Tomorrow is Christmas Eve.  And I have made it through another year.

The loneliness is overwhelming.  I miss my family.  Friends are nice but it's not the same.  And I have Steve but he has his own family now & I like them all very much but I'm not comfortable in chaos & that's all on me.  They asked me to come down once but I declined so they never asked again.  And I'm actually ok with that.

A couple of years ago I met Hope's family down in Austin & it was nice but they live in Arizona. And they are chaos too. 

Growing up, on Christmas Eve we'd eat supper & clean up & open presents.  And on Christmas morning Santa came.  I miss those days.

I'll be home for Christmas...but only in my dreams.

It's too dang cold

 


This was the view outside my kitchen window yesterday morning!  The frost is kind of fun to look at but it sure doesn't feel all that good.  This was 12 degrees.  Today it was 7 when I woke up.

How long til spring??


Dessert Board

 


Here is my first dessert board ever!!  It has Ginger Snaps,Linzer Cookies & Peanut Blossoms, chocolate fudge, peanut butter fudge & my first ever divinity.  Also faux turtles (pretzels,Rolos,pecans), gum drops, extra Rolos, chocolate orange candy & hazelnut straw stick things that I don't remember what they're called. It was fun to make!!

Here's the divinity!
My divinity was not gorgeous but it tasted like my moms.  Next time it'll look better.

The best part...clean kitchen!!



Tuesday, December 6, 2022

Wishy Washy



This weekend, I'm doing dessert boards.  Charcuterie boards are a way to present food on one board so people can just munch off of it.  It's basically an food art project.  Mine is just going to have desserts.  I'm excited to play with it.

I bought 2 boards...I wasn't sure where they were going when I finished with them.  I have some dollar store platters to give goodies to others too.  My first thought with the boards were my friends Deborah & Jan.  But here is the debate in my mind:  Deb has diabetes & she plays that to the hilt.

Plus, like me, she lives alone & neither of us need all the goodies...it's kind of a family thing.  But she has cousins she spends a lot of the holidays with & at first I thought she could take stuff to them.  And reuse it later. 

But she smokes like a chimney & smokes while she cooks & I can rarely eat what comes out of her kitchen.  Picture her with a cigarette sticking out the front of her face while she stirs.  Plus, she has a cat that walks all over the cabinets & I've seen him lick cookies.  Again...not appetizing.

So, I called her yesterday & asked if she wanted the board.  She hem hawed around & never answered me.  I called again today & she said she'd pass on the board, partly because she "doesn't have anywhere to store it".  Not sure what she thinks it is but storage is not a problem.  Easy peasy.  She gets a platter.

Every question from where do you want to eat to what time do you want to leave to what color do you want? is an "I don't really care".   Who the hell seriously has no opinion.  I alway appear bossy because I'm NEVER ind the mood for "I don't really care".  If you don't, I do.  Nothing would ever get done if I didn't make a friggin decision.  

Saturday, December 3, 2022

Lunchbox



No one reads this but me but for the record my mind sometimes not only goes down the rabbit holes but sometimes into complete outer space.  So follow the train if you can...

I like baking shows & the Brits kind of fascinate me.  I mean, I just did an entire post on it...but it also lead me down another trail.

One of the shows had the bakers make "Bedfordshire Clangers" which are "hand pies".  There is surprisingly little on Google about them but from the show it shows a definition as: 

"Clangers are a traditional Bedfordshire Hand Pie. 2/3 savory, 1/3 sweet with a flaky crust".

Basically, it's one long pie with meat & veggies on one end & dessert on the other.  It sounds very efficient.  One guy says he puts one in hs lunch box every day.  

For some reason it makes me think of my dad.  He was a cowboy all his life.  The only, short times, that he had a job where he had to be somewhere at a specific time were when he waas in the army in WWII & when he worked in a mine, in Arizona in the 1960s.  And every day, my mom made his lunch to take to work.  It saved money & then of course there was nowhere to go from work anyway.  Mom would put a sandwich & chips & cookie & fruit...or a thermos with soup & corn bread.  And she'd put it in a lunchbox like the one above although Daddy's was a little more beat up.  We used to run to see what was left over when he came home.

As I worked, I went through stages of taking my lunch & eating out.  I certainly would have saved more money eating in.  And as my lunch hour over the years went to 1/2 hour, I ate in more.  

When not working at the mine, Daddy would be out sometimes at lunch & in his saddle bag he almost always had a sleeve of saltines & a can of Vienna sausage, or what he called "those little fellows in a can".  

I miss my Mom & Daddy.  

Thursday, December 1, 2022

Bakery Judge



I've decided on my next retirement job.  I want to be a bakery judge.  In Hawaii where it's always warm.

I'm streaming a 10 year old show called 'Britain's Best Bakery' where 2 "expert" judges go from bakery to bakery eating.  Sounds like a heck of a job to me.

And I'm already tired of winter so I need to move to Hawaii.  And extra 5k a month should help me live comfortably.  😀

We have bakeries in America of course but these Brit bakeries seem like a bigger deal.  I go sometimes to a cupcake store.  There is a lunch place that has more choices.  But I can't think of one in town that anyone gets up at 3am to bake breads & cakes & pastries every day.  I've seen patissere's in hotels in Las Vegas & NY but seriously by the time we get back & I'm ready to make a choice, they are always closed. 😕.   In Las Vegas, there is a little food court thing in Harrah's that has "treats", my niece's favorite thing.  We usually both pick out something yummy looking & split it.  As with most of life, the look is normally better than the taste.  

But these Brit bakeries look yum!!  After 10 years and a full plandemic, I hope it's still the same now.



It's Chicken!!


 

As I've gotten older I find that there are a lot of things that I used to crave that I absolutely don't anymore.  Pizza, McDonalds,Burger King--basically, ick.  I also used to love Chick Fil A when they were just in the mall & always thought if I had one in my neighborhood I'd eat there a lot.  Now I do have one, rarely eat there. The one thing that I still absolutely love is Schlotzskys but even that's a couple of times a year.  They're all the way across town.

My mom loved fried chicken, mainly because my dad didn't like it so if she was in Lubbock, we always ended up with fried chicken one way or the other.  At the time it was KFC, Church's, Gandy's.  

The thought of KFC turns my stomach.  I can think of 3 or 4 locations that are still open here but I never see any customers there.  I don't know how they're still open.

Church's is a company based out of south Texas that does more traditional fried chicken & I like them better than the others. In fact, I was craving a piece of chicken today.  I ordered 2 breasts so I'd have left overs but they were so over cooked & greasy that I only ate part of one. And today sealed the deal.  I can't imagine ever craving them again after today.

Gandy's was a restaurant & they had good sides & rolls but near their end they stopped cleaning & eventually just died on the vine.  Their old building sat for years & deteriorated. I figured they'd have to implode it to get the nasty out.  A local company finally bought it & rehabbed it & opened it as a breakfast & lunch place.  I miss their rolls.   This was mom's favorite before they turned into a trainwreck.

I occasionally buy a piece of chicken from Popeyes or the grocery & both are better.   I noticed this week  that there was a Popeye's down the street from me, across the street from a KFC & now it's an empty parking lot.  In the chicken war, did KFC win on that corner?😱

I appreciate the train wreck chicken today...glad Church's is out of my life.

Odd sidetrack...the Church's had a sign on their window that said something like "get paid after every shift".  I asked the woman working the window if she really got paid every day?  She said she didn't...and "that's for the kids".  But what an odd thing to me.  I've almost always in my adult life been paid every 2 weeks & budget accodingly.  For the 1 year I worked for "Legacy ATT" I was paid every Friday.  And now as a retiree I get paid technically once a month though I get a pension & social security about 2 weeks apart so really back to every 2 weeks.  Budgeting can be done but it takes a lot of mind rearranging more than anything.  But I think getting paid every day would be a complete disaster. 


Wednesday, November 30, 2022

Gratitude



I've found the last few posts here have been grumpy posts & I need to spend more time with good stuff & stop griping all the time.  So here is a small list of things I'm grateful for post:

1. I had my house painted & siding & sofit & fascia boards fixed & it looks soooooo good.   My door had been a mint green & now it's dark orange.  I'm getting new windows on February 6.  I'm going to have a brand new house, practically.

Before

After


2.  Speaking of my house, I am so blessed to have it.  It's not a fancy house but it sure suits me.  It's big enough, it's warm, it's affordable.  I'm in a neighborhood full of rent houses but the house next door is for sale & I'd love it if someone would buy it to live in, maintain & love.  It has renters in it now.  I don't know if they go or stay with the sale.  They are nice enough people but everyone here pretty stays to themselves.  I'd hate to have to move at Christmas.  

3.  I love my little job.  15 hours a week & my boss & I laugh all day.  We're getting busier which makes the day fo faster & Kaye is making more money & I love it!!  She deserves it.

4.  It's silly but last month, Elon Musk a strange little billionaire, bought Twitter & there are rumors everywhere that it'll crash & I'm grateful it hasn't.  I watch videos on Facebook but don't participate in anything else.  I signed up for a new sodial media thing whose name I cannot even remember but if Twitter dies I won't even go over there.  It's not that important.  I like the "friends" I've met on Twitter & will miss them but if it goes, I go.  I try to not discuss politics on Twitter (but sometimes things sneak through) but I'd miss my Texas Tech friends, my old movie people & just some nice people I've met along the way.

5. I'm grateful that gas prices have gone down & the stock market has gone back up a little.  Earlier this year I just figured I'd have to live a couple of years left but with the upturn in the market I might be able to add a few months back.

6. I'm sleeping better.  I halved my Melatonin dosage & it has help considerably.  My body is weird!

7.  It's Texas Tech Basketball season.  It feeds my soul.

8. While I'm surrounded by renters, across the street I have Leslie & her sister Natalie who own the house & they have an about to be adopted little angel named Armani.  We've become friends & they are sweet.  I'm happy I have them!

9.  I'm grateful I'm off tomorrow & I don't have to set an alarm.  Woohoo!!

Monday, November 28, 2022

Political enemies? Not that I knew of...



I have--or had, I guess--a friend for at least 40 years.  We worked together closely & became good friends outside work.   I've cared about her & her husband & her son.  But for some reason, she's dropped me this last year.

So, a few things.

We don't agree on anything politically.  She & her husband are lunatic Democrats & I'm more conservative.  I'm not a Donald Trump person but Biden, Harris & Pelosi are pimples full of pus as far as I'm concerned.  But I have made it a point to NOT discuss politics to either of them.  I don't have an explanation but apparently if I don't agree with her political views I'm no longer worth knowing.  

And the sad thing is that I don't really care. Our relationship has always been pretty one sided.   She doesn't want to hear about my life but has to call to tell me her husband has a health issue or about her  grandchildren or (recently) about her old girl scould leader dying.  I've been at her house & wanted to go to Fort Worth or anywhere else, it's always no! NO NO NO!!  No compromise at all.  So I usually go alone & she sure doesn't really like that at all. 

Last time I heard from her was in September to share something off Facebook.   I haven't had FB in about a year.  Part of it was because of this person.  She commented on every post & if I posted something she didn't like she'd comment or message me.  And I always told her sorry we didn't agree but even an exchange like that has been over a year ago. 

She didn't send me a birthday wish.  Yesterday was her birthday.  I thought about is a couple of days.  And last night I sent her a happy birthday message.  I told her I hope she had a good birthday.  Her husband answered that she had a good day.  Nothing from her.  (They share a FB account.  And car.  And cell phone.  I think it's all strange but that's just me!).

I'm really sad to say that I'm not as upset about this as I thought I'd be.  Friendships change I guess.  And if I'm dropped because I don't agree politically (as I suspect) it's not a great loss I guess.  


Thursday, November 24, 2022

Thanksgiving 2022

 


Welp, made it through another Thanksgiving.  

For the past few years, I've hosted my friend Deborah (and my cousin a couple of times) and cooked almost everything.  But this year,I decided I did not want the chore or cost of a dinner.  We went to Saltgrass Steakhouse instead. They had a turkey & dressing special but luckily they were doing a full menu too so I had a New York Strip & baked potato instead.  It was yummy.

My friend insists on paying cash everywhere while I use my credit card. (Gotta get those points!!).  Our dinner was the same price but because we did not explain well, they took all the cash to pay the actual bill & charged me the best so my friend did not get her change.  Luckily, she didn't Karen out & confront the waiter.  She assumed he'd padded his tip.   She maryrs through it feeling she'd been ripped off & it was all a matter of bookkeeping.  I figured out what happened after I thought about it for awhile & texted her to tell her I figured it out. (She was at family's house, no call) but she texted & maryred again saying it's all good...& pretty sure she still thinks she's a victim here.  The truth is I owe her the difference in what I paid & what I should have paid.  Hopefully she'll figure it out & not blame the waiter or the restaurant for ripping her off.   Sadly, she tends to be a drama queen & figure everyone is out to get her.

And I was going to leave a $20 tip which confused the hell of her.  But it's Thanksgiving & even this young man was probably getting paid ok, I appreciated him working so I didn't have to.  Friend questions my tipping alot but I'm a generous tipper.  And I was going to let her leave her own tip but she reluctantly gave me $10 so she ended up paying half.

When I got home, I made my mom's fruit salad--apples,oranges,bananas,pecans & whipped cream.  And I had a cherry pie that my realtor gave me for Thanksgiving.  Mom usually made a cherry pie too.  Basically, this part of the day tasted like home. 

I heard from Steve & Hope & cousins Glynneth & Judy & friends Dal & Kaye & Joe & I have a job to go to in the morning & have contractors who showed up this week to work on my house & tomorrow is payday & I am watching Great British Baking &  had a great lunch with a good friend so I'm pretty blessed.   

It's all pretty good.

Monday, November 14, 2022

So My Friend Is Mad At Me



As a single woman, sometimes I need a contractor.  I can do a lot of things but sometimes I need professional help. And finding a contractor is a chore. Sometimes my job is not big enough.  Sometimes I have a job they don't do.  Mostly, they just don't show up.  Apparently, it's a contractor thing. 

I need some fascia boards replaced.  That was my goal.  I had a guy (in my phone as Marty the Snail) who tried to get the job but he kept putting me off, mostly because he didn't know what he was doing.  First he & his son were going to scrape the fascia & then we talked about replacing them.  He kept putting  me off & when I called him about it he said he needed help from a building contractor & they'd be by tomorrow.  I spent half of my day off waiting for them & then he called 2 hours after he was supposed to be there on Saturday because he knew I was off again.  I told him to forget it.  He was talking about replacing not just fascia but the siding on the house!!  I could afford the fascia, not redoing the whole house.  He argued but I told him I was done.  Today he sent me the names of a couple of contractors who could do the job.  He did not say it but he wanted to get some general contractor money off the referral.  I thanked him & told him I'd found someone else.

And I have.  I put a post on a social media app called Nextdoor asking for a contractor & a guy came by on Saturday, at the time he said he'd come.  He gave me an amazing price to do the fascia, repair any sofit, repair the siding & paint the entire house.  I have new windows ordered to be installed in February & I'm basically going to have one snazzy house.

So her is the friend part. My friend wants the contractor's name so he can build little  "cat houses" in her backyard to house feral cats in the wintertime.  And I'm not giving it to her.  I don't want him to feel like he has to take a job where he's going to make little profit because I refer him.  And there was a problem with the last contractor I sent to her that she did not cause but she kind of got in the middle of.   And I'm selfish in that I'm tired of doing all the work to find someone & then because she doesn't take care of her home she takes up all of their time with piddle ass stuff & they don't have time for anyone else, mainly me.  She told me I hurt her feelings by not sharing the info.  But I stood my ground. She needs to invest the time in finding her own contractors.  I told her I found the guy on Nextdoor but she won't download the app because she's pretty sure everyone is looking for her private info & she doesn't want to remember another password.  

So, I was basically a bitch today.  In the old days I'd hate that but sometimes it's necessary.  But I'm taking her lunch tomorrow. And we are not talking again about contractor poaching.  

Saturday, October 15, 2022

Why Do People Think My Business Is Their Business?

Not my window


On Thursday I met wiht a guy who sells Anderson windows to discuss some new windows for my house.  We talked at first about doing 3 windows (1 in living room, 2 in my bedroom) but I ended up buying 9 total.  They will be here in the next few months.  They weren't cheap.  I'm not a person who likes debt & I haven't been in in debt for awhile but I financed them.  I could have taken money from 401k but I hate touching it--even though it's in the frigging toilet right now.   I am at the point that I can make the monthly payments.  And if someday I decide to pay off I can.  I'm paying quite a bit of interest but it's a trade off I can live with to keep my savings intact. I'm pretty excited.  They are going to be gorgeous.

Today, a guy named Marty came by to look at some facia boards that need to be replaced.  He's a nice guy who worked on my front porch last year & I asked him awhile ago to power wash my house & then replace the boards.  He's dragged his feet but we might be finally rolling.  He had some eye rolls about my windows & the company I went with which is the best in the business.  He knew someone to refer me to (probably a bird dog fee involved) & asked me a couple of times if I'd signed a contract.  I was polite but he needs to stay in his lane.  I was a little annoyed  If he'd asked one time, fine.  But then he needs to back off.  When he pays my bills he gets a say.  Not until.  #Not.His.Businesss